The tragedy that all those kids in Newtown, CT have suffered is unimaginable. They need to begin to heal and get back to their daily life in order to begin what will be a very long process. To think that there are people in this world who find the need to add to that trauma by threatening their schools is despicable.
I have thought a lot about what happened. It has kept me up at night and I have cried not only for the loss of those kids and teachers, but also the loss of all those children who survived and the loss of their innocence. I have cried for the loss of innocence for my 7 year old because he finally understands how hateful and angry humanity can be. But I also find comfort and solace as these kids and my own child has seen another side of humanity: that of love and comfort, empathy and understanding, that we as a people, people of this world, have come together and embraced the children of Newton as their own.
History is full of examples of what hate can do to a person, a group of people or an entire race. I firmly believe that guns don't kill people. People kill people. But guns sure as hell do make it easier to kill people.
The answer isn't more guns. The answer isn't arming teachers and school administrators. The answer isn't prayer in school. The answer isn't because children aren't being taught Christianity and religion in school. The answer isn't something that can be fixed by a rush of legislation or laws. The answer isn't institutionalizing every person who is mentally ill or has a personality disorder. The answer is really found within each and everyone of us. That answer is kindness and love.
I see anger and hate on a daily basis as I go along my life. Cutting people off while driving. Police harassing black people as they walk down the street in my town. Words like retarded and fag or homo or bitch used between people as easily as someone says please and thank you. People yelling at a bank employee because their checking account is overdrawn. Or someone screaming at a cashier because they are out of Scotch tape. I see nothing but hate and anger on the news every morning and every night as the newscaster reports on shootings, murder, robbery and abductions that happen on a daily basis.
It is time to stop looking for blame and time to look within yourself. Be kind to everyone you meet. Shower strangers with love and compassion. Let your children watch you, learn and follow you by example. The only way to really change humanity is to be the one who starts it. Kindness and love is contagious. The more you love and show kindness to others, the more light and love you share with others, it will eventually be passed on, and that my friends is what makes a better world.
As the great peacemaker Gandhi said :
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
“As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world –that is the myth of the atomic age –as in being able to remake ourselves.”
****I know that because of some of what I written some may find controversial. I am asking to please keep your comments polite and respectful.